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Most of us want to live in peace, not in a climate of violence and war. This kind of peace is certainly worth striving for and comes from a deep, honest desire for something good for all of us. Peace of heart is not the same as peace which is the opposite of war, and it might not seem worth consideration when compared with that of obtaining world peace. However, the two are closely related, and the cessation and prevention of violence and war depends greatly upon the degree to which we have peace in our hearts.
We often need to take firm, direct action towards bringing peace to any situation where people have different values, desires, and intentions. But when we do so, anger, especially if it is directed towards others, is not going to bring about any kind of peace. However, if we have reconciled the differences within ourselves, we can offer peaceful witness and encouragement to others for accepting that the differences exist, or for identifying a way to go about living with irreconcilable differences without resorting to violence.
Peace of heart is a valuable, helpful gift that enables us to get past any anger that might arise within as we confront injustices. Every good gift requires a giver who gives freely, not for payment, reward, or anything other than love. God is such a giver, and we can ask trustingly for peace of heart, knowing that it will be not just for our sake but also and especially for the advantages that it can be for others when manifested through us. There is nothing selfish about wanting to become the kind of person whose peaceful presence in human interactions makes possible the reconciling of differences that might otherwise lead to violence and even war.
We probably know from graced intuition that violence is not a viable means of bringing about peace of any sort, but we might be less aware of how influential we can be when our hearts are truly at peace. This truth is not mentioned in the media. There are no headlines, photos, or captions about it, because it is not an immediately visible or tangible force that catches people’s attention. But this is how God works among us, individually and quietly, person by person. Each one of us who has any degree of peace of heart is a positive influence for peace in others. God does not coerce anyone to good behavior but gracefully invites people to choose what it better. And we are carriers of such grace when we believe, think, and act from peace of heart.
Seeking for, valuing, and praying for this gift is a graced means for helping to bring about world peace.
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We can remember many things that have happened, both recent and past, and sometimes we ponder their meaning. Other memories are not easily accessible, as when we try to remember where we were on a certain date, or the names of everyone who was present at a small gathering we attended. There are other memories that are hidden from our ability to recall them, and which affect our thinking and behavior without our knowing it. When we question where a specific thought or behavior comes from, one of these hidden memories could be revealed to us.
We might recall such an experience, as when, for example, we wondered how we had acquired a habit of always doing something the same way, even though there was no reason for doing so; and then a childhood memory came up of one of our parents acting in that same way and we see the connection. Discovering influences like this is satisfying, because we believe that every aspect of our lives is somehow purposeful and meaningful.
However, some of our past life-experiences were hurtful, and even if their memories became hidden, our bodies remember them. When we are enabled to recall the connection between disruptive aspects of our lives, their possible initial sources, and the initial impetuses for them, healing almost always follows. This process of becoming aware of how past hurts have been affecting our present lives is most securely done by consciously partnering with God. Whether we eventually talk with a friend or someone in a healing profession for help, only God knows the full story of our hidden memories, loves us completely as we are, and is always available to guide us in the manner that is best for us. When we start with God, we will find our way to fuller integration of hidden memories.
While we usually enjoy discovering how we came to develop some of our habitual behavior, the process of uncovering painful memories for the sake of healing is not of itself enjoyable. That is why we, who are created as communal people, engage in this essentially spiritual journey in the company of God and other trusted persons. Even though our exploration is deeply personal, we do not come to know ourselves better on our own, but in relationships with others. Often, we do not even understand what we believe about ourselves until we hear ourselves express it to others, especially to God.
Since we are unique individuals, we are partially mysterious or at least in some ways unknowable, to others, and even to some extent to ourselves. But not to God, our creator-lover to whom our hidden memories are completely open. If we want to come to know ourselves better, including the effects of previous painful incidents upon us, we ask God to guide and inspire us.
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When we think of having been schooled it is usually in terms of a specific subject, with the added emphasis that we learned it well and have some mastery of it, and not that we simply attended classes, seminars, or received individual tutoring and never gained comprehension. Although most of have been schooled in prayer, we cannot begin with an assumption that we have learned how to pray and now have expertise. Rather, we make use of our spiritual senses and discover several causes for gratitude.
We can begin by thinking about how, and through whom, we have been schooled in prayer; how we have become able to pray anywhere and anytime of our choosing, including those times when we are silently appreciative of the beauty of nature. We can likely recall some instances when we were taught about various ways of praying by family members or teachers, and by receiving direct inspirations from God, as well as by personal invitations from other people that made praying a natural response. We might see how we were not only being schooled somewhat as we might have been in a normal teaching or coaching environment but are still being schooled even now in our relationship with God as an ongoing spiritual experience. Unlike specific areas of learning, progress in prayer is continual and is also not measurable by any standard that could ever lead to a sense of completion.
When we look at the mysterious process by which we encounter God in prayer, we find that trust and love are essential components, whether we are aware of such movements within us or not. Over time, we notice moments of felt closeness with God or awareness of our being loved, and at other moments we have little or no perceptible feelings. But in the end, we sense that praying was good for us. Such is the manner at least in part, by which we are being schooled in prayer.
Since it is impossible for our minds to fully comprehend the vastness of the physical universe or even our own ways of thinking, feeling, and making decisions, we can begin to appreciate how wondrous it is that we can pray; that we who are wholly dependent and time-bound creatures, have the capacity to be present to God who is present with us. No matter how many people have directly or indirectly guided and helped us, we are ultimately schooled by God through the priceless gift of faith. Thankfulness is likely a spontaneous and beneficial result of quietly pondering such a beautiful mystery.
Being schooled in prayer is a lifelong gracious part of life.
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It would be difficult to imagine using “lonely” in a positive context. Rather, the word seems to begin with the idea that “lone” is not a truly constructive human condition even though the efforts of lone individuals are often quite rightly praised. We know that each of us has been raised in, and has been supported and influenced by, many people and communities. We have grown and developed as unique people who act as individuals in ways for which we are solely responsible, but we might want to think more deeply about whether we do so as completely lone agents.
Much of our activity is clearly communal, as when we engage in a conversation with one person or with many people. We act as individuals when we think, compose text, ponder whatever we see or hear, and when we close our eyes to sleep. Yet, at every moment, we are in the unseen presence of love that moves in and through every one of our human activities. We may not have any consciousness of our essential connection with being loved, but we live ultimately because we are loved, first by God, but then by others as well. Whether we advert to this truth or not, it is love that enables us to act, perhaps some of it arising from sources we have never considered before but might now choose to quietly admit into our awareness.
If we have feelings of loneliness, we usually desire companionship, and not just any kind, but that of true care for us. Some of us might think that only living people with whom we can be present physically, or by some means of communication, will suffice to alleviate our distress. Others have found that in prayer to unseen God, and in recalling loving relationships with family and friends including some who have died, the feelings of loneliness diminish, and other feelings and other thoughts enter that help move our focus from self to gratitude for all that we have received.
The prevalent culture around us promotes the idea of individual rights without much regard for the common good, which is the real source and support without which lone individuals would have no rights at all. Another way of describing how over-emphasis on the idea of individuality is self-injurious is our experience of gratitude. Will we thank ourselves for being who we are? Rather, when we choose to look through our past to the great variety of good, caring people, inspiring examples of some public figures, and the ways people have influenced us, our hearts are touched by the peace-giving experience of gratitude.
No more emphasis on loneliness or a sense of being a lone person going through life. Instead, we know that we are loved, and so, we love.