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Second - An occasion to look again.
When we think of second place, we might easily be dismissive, knowing that by comparison, first place would be higher. The expression “second rate” is even more dismissive, concentrating only on the negative aspect of whatever is being considered. And if we compare things with one another such as actions, events, physical objects, or even thoughts and ideas, there can only be one that is first, all others being second to it and therefore judged to be of less value than whatever is designated as first.
If we reflect carefully on how this “second place” mentality affects us, we might enter a more fulfilling way of living not only in company with others, but more peacefully within our own minds and hearts. Many Olympic silver and bronze medalists rightfully rejoice in their achievements instead of thinking about not being first. So can we, with practically everything we do and say in a typical day. Comparisons of measure are useful, but the true value of all that we do and say is ultimately incomparable before God, and before all others as well. We live in a mysterious yet ordinary reality where at one level comparisons are valid and at another they are not, and at the same time. We can judge behavior, objects, and concepts as being better than or of less value than others’ as we do with the performance of medalist winners, without making a judgment about the value of the persons.
Our relationship with God as God desires it depends upon our acceptance of not comparing ourselves with anyone else: not with one of the Saints or prophets, or any of the greats of history, but as a unique creation who will never be the same as anyone else. When we acknowledge God’s infinity and love that are expressed in all creation, we find our incomparability. And, if we reflect on what this means, what follows is great peace of heart, and freedom to be who we are. More than mere appreciation for our uniqueness we find within us a movement and a direction towards becoming more, even better than before, with continual growth.
Frequently taking a second look at how God sees and regards us will lead us away from comparing ourselves with others, and we will become much less concerned about whatever judgements they might make about us. We know, as no one else other than God, our weaknesses and failures in trying to live wholly according to our beliefs, ideals, and responsibilities. Yet whenever we pause to look at God looking at us, all we ever see is love.
Accepting this love is the one force that moves us beyond thinking about how we might be compared with others, so that we focus our energies on loving as we are loved.
Last Updated 2/28/2026